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ANGER BECOMES HATRED BECOMES VIOLENCE Hatred Is ...

Jan 13, 2020, 3 comments, 3 smiles ANGER BECOMES HATRED BECOMES VIOLENCE Hatred is not a feeling. Anger is a feeling. Hatred is ossified anger. We hate someone at whom we are angry, when we haven't expressed the anger. If we share anger directly with the person, it can open dialogue, even carrying us beyond the anger. Writing the anger or sharing it in conversation with others can also enable us to work it through. Avoiding expression leaves us alone with the anger, and the anger has nowhere to go. So it ferments in our bellies and intensifies, like a volcano, and then what bursts forth is not only anger but also an objectification of the other, an objectification called hate. Hatred fills the hole left by the absence of relationship. Vilifying the objectified other creates a new form of expression, which is hatred. Once relationship is gone, hatred enables violence, objectification in the absence of relationship. I feel I can harm someone whom I have turned into an object and who is "worthy" of my hatred. If others can understand from my hateful speech that I am also encouraging them to hate, and possibly to harm the object, that speech becomes incitement.

OPENING MESSAGE For RECENT GATHERING OF ...

Dec 31, 2019, 9 smiles OPENING MESSAGE for RECENT GATHERING OF PALESTINIANS AND ISRAELIS Every country needs an infrastructure. Water to drink, electricity to warm us, sewage to let the filth out. But what about the human needs of the people of our countries? Our need to love, to breathe, to work in safety and decency? Our need to live in an atmosphere of trust. Who will provide the human infrastructure? Perhaps it is we, the children of Gandhi, the children of Sulha, the people of peace. Maybe, together, we will generate the strength to overcome the waves of hatred in our societies. Maybe we can insist on creating peaceful, dignified solutions to conflicts, knowing that our countries' solutions can only be as effective as our people are humane . We are the future victory over hatred and violence. Our love is stronger than these days' fierce currents, sweeping our countries toward despair. We are the brave salmon, swimming against the current, leaping ever upstream, to finally arrive in tranquil pools to spawn our fertile eggs, the children of the future.

SULHA LIVES

Nov 15, 2019, 1 comments, 4 smiles "Sulha" means reconciliation, in Arabic. The practice of Sulha is centuries old. The term is also in use among Israelis, it's part of our daily language. When an Israeli wants to repair a broken relationship, he'll ask to "make a Sulha." The Sulha Peace Project has brought Palestinians and Israelis together in the spirit of reconciliation, for the past twenty years. Last Thursday evening, before this week's pointless, lethal round of violence in Gaza, we were set to welcome 80 Israelis and Palestinians to a popular spot in "Area C," where Israelis can meet Palestinians without going through the army for permits. At 11 AM, the director of the facility called to say that he had received threats from a group of young Palestinians who vowed to disrupt the Sulha gathering. He cancelled our reservation. The threats are part of a trend that has taken root in Palestine, to label any ... Read Full Story

HOPE AROUND THE FIRE "I've Reconciled Myself ...

Sep 14, 2019, 1 comments, 7 smiles HOPE AROUND THE FIRE "I've reconciled myself to this…..there will not be peace….. and it's made my life easier. I go to work, and I do what I must, but I've stopped hoping and expecting that we will make peace, any time in the near future." With these words, Sami, the young Palestinian in the back seat of my car, threatened to darken the light that glowed in my belly as we came home from last night's Sulha gathering. Minutes before, we had finished scrubbing the pots from dinner and dousing the tribal fire where 80 Palestinians and Israelis sang songs of hope and shared our common dreams, while the nearly-full moon flirted with shining its light through the passing clouds. I pushed him to look, despite his appraisal, reminding him of Margaret Mead's famous statement…"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only ... Read Full Story

VISITING DEIR YASSIN

Jul 24, 2019, 2 comments Joe was recently hospitalized involuntarily at the psychiatric hospital, Kfar Shaul. I have been going to visit him nearly every day. His name is not Joe, and the original name of the place where he is confined is Deir Yassin. On April 9, 1948, after fierce house-to-house fighting, fighters of the Irgun and Lehi forces dis-emboweled, decapitated, raped and killed between 100 and 150 men, women and children, residents of Deir Yassin. News of the massacre precipitated waves of fear and panic among the general Palestinian population, significantly contributing to the ultimate exodus of 700,000 people from their homes during the subsequent War of Independence. Joe is unaware of the history of the hospital. He feels imprisoned and wants to get back to the old age home where they are still holding his room. A few of us folks support him, and we are hopeful. Meanwhile, my daily pilgrimages to Deir ... Read Full Story

Toward The Sabbath In Jerusalem

Jun 27, 2019, 5 smiles There's an old, full-size axe in my garden all the time. That's where I chop wood for our wood-burning stove. Today, three strapping young East-Jerusalem Palestinian men came to begin extensive anti-leaking work on our house. They arrived at the garden where a small sledgehammer and a hoe are also among the tools. Uncontrollably, I found myself asking, "What would I have to do that would cause these guys to hack me to death with my garden tools?" Am I afraid of Palestinians? I'm not proud of the fact that I have hidden, in my inner conversation, automatic responses of terror, even as I welcome these lovely three guys who have come to do a job. While I, for an instant, imagine a horror, what interests them is handling the challenges of our leaky house efficiently and getting their payment. Nothing else. As part of the Israeli collective, I have absorbed, through ... Read Full Story

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Jun 09, 2019, 3 comments, 2 smiles Nechama Rivlin was us | Noah Efron | The Blogs She had no airs, she was generous, thoughtful and idealistic: where can you find those qualities today in Israel? Everywhere

Life Is Like A Cigar.

May 15, 2019, 5 smiles Life is like a cigar. When it's fresh, just out of the box, a good cigar exudes a quiet enthusiasm. The whole ritual….smelling along the length of the cigar, biting off the tip, lighting it well, the entire end aglow. The cigar's intervening stages unfold, youth, middle age, as you approach the mighty finale of the butt end of the cigar. The essence of the cigar's youth and maturity is now mixed into the sharp taste of its last minutes, and its imminent demise. On one of Jerry Benjamin's many visits to Israel, he invited me to his room at Mishkenot Sha'ananim, the by-invitation guest house facing the walls of the Old City. He pulled out two extremely delicious cigars, as he poured some whiskey for us. Talking with Jerry was an adventure, always full of a sense of possibility. What made him so attractive was this combination of deep wisdom and ... Read Full Story

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May 12, 2019, 3 comments, 4 smiles Kid whose 'Wow’ reaction to hearing Mozart went viral has been found and his story is incredible - masslive.com No Description Found

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Apr 16, 2019, 2 smiles I believe | Yoav Peck | The Blogs From the blog of Yoav Peck at The Times of Israel