Empathy Makes Difficult Feelings Less Difficult for Kids

May 08, 2021

Quote of the Week

"Empathy is simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of you're not alone." -- Brene Brown

Empathy Makes Difficult Feelings Less Difficult

"We support our child's healthy emotional development every time we respond to their difficult feelings by softening our hearts and moving into expressing that genuine heartfelt empathy. With some kids you can just say the words and it'll hit the spot. Then other kids have a radar for just how authentic we're being and if we're just doing the empathy thing without truly feeling it, we'll be busted. But they may not name it just like that, they'll more likely get reactive or storm out of the room or shout "stop talking!".

This empathic parenting gig is easier said than done! Believe me I know! Softening our hearts and relating with genuine empathy is not an easy task or one for the faint of heart. But I'm going to share some little perspective shifts that might help you on this brave and treacherous road of stopping and dropping from our head into that heart-felt, vulnerable feeling that our children crave so much!" [Read Article]

Reading Corner

Title: The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read
By: Philippa Perry
Stage: Suitable for all stages of parenthood

"In this Sunday Times bestseller, leading psychotherapist Philippa Perry reveals the vital do's and don'ts of relationships. This is a book for us all. Whether you are interested in understanding how your upbringing has shaped you, looking to handle your child's feelings or wishing to support your partner, you will find indispensable information and realistic tips in these pages. Philippa Perry's sane, sage and judgement-free advice is an essential resource on how to have the best possible relationships with the people who matter to you most." -- Publisher

Be the Change

Next time your child is showing signs of agitation, defiance, or misbehaviour, take a pause to think about what could be underlying his behaviour, which is causing them to not feel good from within. Actively practice empathy in that moment to hold space for your child and connect with them as they process their feelings.