The White Envelope

Posted by Bijan Khazai on Dec 7, 2020
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[A moving story I just read to my kids.]

"It's just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past ten years.

It all began because my husband Mike hated Christmas. Oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the commercial aspects of it – overspending and the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma – the gifts given in desperation because you couldn't think of anything else.

Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way.

Our son Kevin, who was 12 that year, was on the wrestling team at the school he attended. Shortly before Christmas, there was a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city church. These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes.

As the match began, I was alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet designed to protect a wrestler's ears. It was a luxury the ragtag team obviously could not afford.

Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. Mike, seated beside me, shook his head sadly, "I wish just one of them could have won," he said. "They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them." Mike loved kids – all kids. He so enjoyed coaching little league football, baseball and lacrosse. That's when the idea for his present came.

That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes, and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church. On Christmas Eve, I placed a small, white envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done, and that this was his gift from me.

Mike's smile was the brightest thing about Christmas that year. And that same bright smile lit up succeeding years. For each Christmas, I followed the tradition – one year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before Christmas, and on and on.

The white envelope became the highlight of our Christmas. It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning, and our children – ignoring their new toys – would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal its contents. As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents, but the small, white envelope never lost its allure.

The story doesn't end there. You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer. When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up. But Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree. And the next morning, I found it was magically joined by three more. Unbeknownst to the others, each of our three children had for the first time placed a white envelope on the tree for their dad. The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing to take down that special envelope.

Mike's spirit, like the Christmas spirit will always be with us."
For the Man Who Hated Christmas

(A true Christmas Story by Nancy W. Gavin, December 2015)

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Comments (16)

  • Kristy Pace wrote ...

    What an incredibly touching tribute to a kind, open heart.

  • Audrey Lin wrote ...

    What a beautiful story, Bijan! Thank you for sharing Mike and Nancy and their family's Christmas "tradition" ! :)

  • Ellie Hyatt wrote ...

    How could you not read this story and end with tears in your yes. I have begun making donations at Christmas but love the tradition of the envelope on the tree. It makes the spirit of giving visible.
    You touched my heart, thank you!

  • Yoo-Mi Lee wrote ...

    Such a beautiful story! Thank you so much for sharing this tradition, Bijan.

  • Marliese Khazai wrote ...

    So inspiring just at a time when discussions arose what and how to share a birthday give away on a birthday on 31st of December. Thanks for sharing and the wonderful idea.

  • Kerri wrote ...

    Bijan, thank you for sharing such intimacy with your beautiful open heart. These are experiences I haven't had in my life. Through you, I feel a taste of the profound love, honor, connection and grace you and your family share. You are such a gift.

  • Francine wrote ...

    Heartwarming and so inspirational. There are so many ways to celebrate Christmas without giving gifts that many people don’t really need,

  • Ragunath wrote ...

    Goosebumps! Thanks a lot for sharing Bijan.

  • Maria wrote ...

    What we so need in the world...Love & Open Heartedness put into action.
    An inspiring read...thankyou

  • Mamta Nanda wrote ...

    Moved me to tears. thanks for sharing. Very inspiring.

  • hansa patel wrote ...

    Very thoughtful act. To make it a tradition out of it you children’s understanding. Good way to teach to new generation the meaning of gift. It is not about me and you but it is about someone who is in need.

  • Marie Altman wrote ...

    This brought tears. Beautiful story of giving.

  • Jasmeet wrote ...

    such a beautiful and meaningful Christmas tradition!

  • Roberta Keegan wrote ...

    Thank you for that touchingly lovely story - and true! it certainly brought tears to my eyes as it did to others, I see. Needing the reminder that this Covid-19 virus is not the only game in town was certainly needed by me; as is the reminder that never is the need to give not great. We in this country have so many avenues to give to so many in this country as everywhere. Thank you, Bijan Khazai and, of course, many thanks to Nancy Gavin, who established a very thoughtful "giving Christmas Tradition".

  • jeena methala johny wrote ...

    incredible story

  • Diane Diamond wrote ...

    Truly touching and inspiring story! May that spirit of gifting be prevalent in our world! Certainly many of us don't really need another object or thing to add to our material possessions. However the heart/soul/spirit nourishment of making a difference for those in need is immearsurably valuable!