How Vinny Changed His High School Culture

Posted by Nipun Mehta on Jul 4, 2016
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[Below is an email I just received.  It absolutely made my week. --Nipun]

Hello Mr. Mehta,

I apologize for this long email, but please if you have some time in your busy day can you please read it. My name is [Vinny] and I have had the privilege to listen to you and converse with you in Southern California and in Atlanta. I was inspired by your words then and I am still now. Whenever I am stuck in a sticky situation I remind myself to "Be the Change". I remind myself that kindness is the only universal language that people understand. Those guiding principles have helped me through life so far, and especially during my senior year in high school.

At my school, there was a school shooting and there also was a girl who had committed suicide. The morale among the student body was at its all time low with suspicion, anxiety, and remorse pervading through the hallways and classrooms. I wanted to uplift the school and help alleviate the pain they were experiencing.

So with your guiding principles of spreading kindness, I coordinated a week long program called YOU MATTER that focused on school empowerment and love.

It was coordinated with my school student government, art class, film class, and Parent Association to run this event. I made sure the program seemed as if it originated among the school rather than a person. Messages and programs are more powerful when everyone feels like he or she is leading it. Here was the program we developed and implemented:

Monday: "You are loved"

Our intention was for everyone on campus to know that they are equally loved and are equally important to everyone on campus. We coordinated a video with film department for the day; with student government we made a heart for every single student on campus and added a quote that made them special; we put inspiring and loving notes in every students lockers; we put notes on teachers' cars to let them know we care for them.

Tuesday: "You are not Alone"

Our intention was to focus on letting every student know that everyone has problems, so the way to overcome them are to come together as a community to solve them. We coordinated a video with film department; after school on Monday, I changed all the decorations to match Tuesday theme; we hosted lunch time activities that promoted community empowerment; I gave a motivational talk to the school with examples of possibilities.

Wednesday- " You are Beautiful"

Our intention was for each person on campus to know that they are not only beautiful on the outside, but also on the inside. Like the other days, we coordinated a video with film department and changed the decor to match the theme. Prior to this week, for thirty straight days, I had gone to 30 different stores and garnered a donation of 1,500 roses and 1,300 Hershey chocolates -- and on this day, we distributed a chocolate to every boy and a rose to every girl on campus. We also got bouquets of roses for every staff member, and many of the men gave them to their wives when they went home.

Thursday- "You are Unique"

Our intention was to focus on the concept that every single person is unique in some way. Apart for coordinating a film, we had a talent show at lunch time and also had a band play music during nutrition. It was a relaxed day.  Here's the messages that students had written.

Friday- "We are Comanches"

We changed the focus of the program from You Matter to We Matter as a school. So by using our school mascot, we changed the day to We are Comanches. We gave away a lot of school merchandise like socks, pencils, pens, notebooks, hats, shirts, etc. (We had extra from previous events so why not?!) At lunch time, we hosted an activity in which we said different school chants. We gave counselors, janitors, and food service people letters thanking them for all they have done. With my scholarship money, I got all the janitors tickets to an Angels Game. Each Senior received a personal letter highlighting why they matter (a project that I had started during the beginning of my senior year).

The program was amazing, to say the least. People started to view the issues which happened in the past not as just a moment of sadness, but a watershed event that made the campus more unified and happier than ever before. With your stories, Mr. Mehta, you gave me the motivation that changed the lives and cultural of people on my campus forever.

Thank you,

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Comments (18)

  • Richard Whittaker wrote ...

    Wow. Amazing. What a remarkable story...

  • Anne-Marie Bauer wrote ...

    Oh my goodness this made me tear up with joy! What a sweet story! :) The HS students reactions in the "what do you find beautiful" video was really heart warming :)

  • Yoo-Mi Lee wrote ...

    Oh my, what a beautiful story. Amazing effort inspired by love.

  • Bradley Stoll wrote ...

    This is so inspiring and provides a great deal of hope. So glad Vinny was gifted with hearing your words<3.

  • Audrey Lin wrote ...

    Amazing! :) And was particularly struck by Vinny's observation: "Messages and programs are more powerful when everyone feels like he or she is leading it."

  • Nilam Chauhan wrote ...

    Beautiful !!!!!You inspired me , you made my day Vinny !
    Sending lots of love and blessings and smiles :)

  • Alan Zulch wrote ...

    Wow, that's truly amazing to see the power of the heart in full bloom. The video brought tears. So inspiring.

  • Samar Zebian wrote ...

    beautiful and relatively simple way to warm up the heart and community. curious about the shift from "me" to "We" throughout the week. considerable research on compassion suggest that compassion for others is easier than self-compassion. Interested in the relationship of me/I and "we" in designing for more compassionate schools and workplaces. thank you for sharing this beautiful letter and initiative.

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  • Meghna Banker wrote ...

    Wowww!!!! So so so so amazing, inspiring and humbling!

  • Sujatha Babu wrote ...

    This is an amazing story of transformation. Thank you for sharing !

  • Guri Mehta wrote ...

    What an amazing effort led by one kid! I can't imagine what he would do as an adult. :-)

  • Nandini Iyer wrote ...

    Wow! Love how he took such concrete specific steps to be the change, and then shared it with all of us to go forth with!

  • Khushmita Sanghvi wrote ...

    Incredible :) loved the kids smiling and sharing in the You are beautiful video!

  • Sima Sanghvi wrote ...

    Wow, incredible! So moved by Vinny's inspiration!

  • Sheetal Sanghvi wrote ...

    Made my day!!

  • Preeta Bansal wrote ...

    wow- the amount of loving care and detailed attention to making each person feel special . . . what a remarkable energy!

  • sunita wrote ...

    Very inspiring and healing ...thankyou :)