Hello Friends, My Teenage Daughter Is ...

Posted by Becky Jaine Suzik on Feb 27, 2018
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Hello Friends, My teenage daughter is really struggling emotionally right now. With so much violence in schools, and in my own community, she is hurting and doesn't understand why others around her do not lead with love. In the past two months I read a compelling article here on Service Space, but my search terms are not finding it and my memory does not recall the writer. The writer shared that he was in a philosophy (or psychology) class and had a debate with his teacher about human nature, and the natural set point of love and peace versus defense and entitlement. (These might be my words, not the writer's.) His writing resonated with my heart that indeed we are more grounded and bound to each other in love than in competition or battle. Does anyone recall a similar story or know who the kindheart was that posted it? This essay made me feel hope for love and connection. Thank you for reading. Even if you do not know this essay/writer, if you have any other suggestions/sources or essays that might be good for my teenage daughter. She knows with all her heart these things to be true, but as a teen she is individuating and looking outside of herself and our home for backup answers. Much love and gratitude, Becky

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  • Amit Arora wrote ...

    Hi Becky, I could not find the article that you were referring to, but found something similar here [View Link] and [View Link] Hope this is useful for your daughter. with love and gratitude.

  • Gayathri Ramachandran wrote ...

    Hi Becky -- did you mean this article? I found it deeply moving: [View Link]

  • Becky Jaine Suzik wrote ...

    Thank you both for your thoughtful sharing these wonderful love-filled stories. I will share with her. Gayathri it's not the same article but in the context of horses (my daughter loves them) this will certainly bless her. <3 <3 <3 The essay I am not fully recalling was a conversation that happened in a university classroom between teacher and student. the student believes in love and the teacher did not.

  • Patrick wrote ...

    Dear Becky, I seem to remember the article too, or a similar one. Was it about a teacher who had his class discuss whether or not altruism was of any benefit to society - something like that?
    I've just typed 'altruism' into the search box and it came up with quite a few stories, none of which seemed to be the one, sorry :)))

  • Pavi Mehta wrote ...

    Dear Becky -- am not sure which essay you were originally referring to, but here are some other resources that came to mind, in case they are of use. Sending good wishes to you and your daughter...
    Kindness the First Gift: [View Link]
    24 Acts of Kindness to Restore Faith in Humanity: [View Link]
    What Science Taught Me About Gratitude, Compassion and Awe: [View Link]
    Spiritual Practices for Times of Crisis: [View Link]

  • Becky Jaine Suzik wrote ...

    thank you so much Patrick and Pavi and all. Yes, Patrick... I think that was the same article, the writer had a discussion with professor in class. These other articles are helpful and full of affirmation and love. As a mother I have worked intentionally to cultivate this natural awareness my children have (I think ALL humans are born with) and now the culture, their school environment and peers are whtittling at it. We continue to be warriors for love and kindness. I'm going to PRINT some of these for her to read away from the computer ;) So grateful for everyone's love and well wishes.
     

  • Chris Johnnidis wrote ...

    Dear Becky, seeing this a bit after you posted, but wanted to share another resource--perhaps you're familiar with Joanna Macy? I'm always heartened by her fierce compassion (one example, a great interview: [View Link] ) ... Oh and now I see one of Pavi's links was also to Joanna Macy :)