People ask me, "Is change really possible?" I say, "Yeah. Look at my dad."
When I first had this thought -- "Ride your bike back to China" -- my ego resisted the idea. All the dreams that I had, that my parents had, my grandparents had, they all had to die. They worked hard their whole life to send me to study in the US. Now, I'm telling them I'm coming back with nothing on a bicycle. They have a bicycle their whole lives but they wanted to buy a car or buy a house and send their kids to America. So my ego didn't want this pilgrimage.
For two weeks, I resisted it but the calling was killing me. As the Gospel of Thomas quote goes, "If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will kill you." I surrendered to it.
And now the extremely difficult task of explaining this to my parents.
I Skyped with them, and tried to explain. My Dad was immediately turned off. He raised his voice and said, "What? You're being irresponsible! You're too young. You don't know what you're doing." I said, "Dad, I have to call back in a few minutes."
I hung up and cried for ten minutes straight, because I've been very close to my family all along. I had hurt their feelings, and I was afraid that for the rest of the journey I would have to travel without their support.
Then came one of the most moving stories of transformation that I've witnessed.
Somehow my Dad went from saying, "You're in the heart of Silicon Valley. Learn about artificial intelligence. Learn about biotech." to "If it makes you happy to do this, go do it." He accepted it, but still was quite suspicious. I didn't have any shared context around this to tell him that meditation is the most advanced biotech that I have ever encountered, that there is wisdom far beyond the reaches of artificial intelligence.
Then, November 2016. My Dad sat for 20 minutes of meditation. First time ever. He came out and said, "Truth is hard to encounter. Life isn't permanent, and I may die tomorrow. I shall not delay, sign me up for a meditation retreat." He went to a 10-day Vipassana retreat, and for six months after that, he constantly served and sat courses. Always, nonstop. He quit his job, quit smoking, quit drinking, became a vegetarian. He's actually been living like a monk for most of the past year. Soon enough, he served a thirty day meditation retreat.
It has just brought the most profound change in his life. Now I no longer need to explain anything to him.
When people ask him, what prompted him to go to meditation and triggered his 180 degree turn, he says, "My son, my only-son, never did house-work his whole life. But after meditation, now when he comes home, he voluntarily does the dishes. So, I thought, this meditating must not be that bad."
I've been trying to wash dishes everywhere I go, because I have so much debt to repay. If that joke is even one percent true, I will commit to do dishes my whole life.
Posted by Drishti Trivedi on Feb 9, 2018
On Feb 8, 2018 Rahul Mehta wrote:
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