This Nicely Articulates A Couple Truisms ...

Posted by Neil Patel on Dec 4, 2014
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This nicely articulates a couple truisms I've felt strongly about:
  • Disagreements should be about collectively getting to the truth, not winning. "Any time you're in a fervent disagreement with someone, remind yourself to focus on what's right rather than who's right."
  • "Many of us hold onto beliefs, even about our own lives, that aren't accurate. We tell ourselves "I'm good at ___, but I have never been good at _____," or "I could pull _____ off, but I could never pull ____ off." These unexamined mantras often turn into self-fulfilling prophecies, because we subconsciously seek to validate our position. Yes, we want to be proven "right," even if what we're right about keeps us from growth and change."
  • If you think you're always right, you lose becuase you fail to learn from others: "Resist the urge to write people off as uninformed or just plain wrong, and instead ask yourself, "What can I learn from this person?" We don't have to agree with someone to learn from them."
 
The High Cost of Always Being 'Right' | Rory Vaden

After years of coaching successful professionals in a variety of disciplines, I've come to see that when conflicts arise, many of us tend to care more about being "right" than we do about finding the best course of action....
  

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  • Lavanya Marla wrote ...

    How true! Thanks for sharing. Reminds me of what Jayesh bhai said once - "If you focus on who is right, judgement comes in. If you focus on what is right, equanimity comes in."